“Sometimes you can’t see what you’re learning until you come out on the other side.”
-Wonder Woman (from Wonder Woman 1984 movie)
I’m going to celebrate the 3rd Anniversary of the Restorative Life Blog with a special personal update. If you are unfamiliar with the background of where we started, refer to Welcome to Restorative Life from May 2018. At that point, we were about ten years into our journey of mental and behavior health challenges that evolved into physical health problems as a result of psychiatric medications. We had been through a lot and there were a myriad of times that we turned that proverbial corner and thought we were there.
If we had listened to others, we may not have made it to the other side. At one point, we ended up on a path that was leading to a totally different destination. It was very much a choice that we didn’t accept that script or story that was being laid out for our son’s future. I knew deep down that there had to be another solution, another way to heal and calm his very active brain. There were a lot of dark moments and dark seasons. The dim glow that our faith and belief provided was enough light to persevere and keep moving forward, I called it a nugget of hope and kept it with me always. Sometimes the climbs were very steep and seemed impossible, but as long as I remained faithful, that nugget of hope was there for me. Eventually the light became brighter and steered us in the right direction.
Like any parents, my personal story became woven in with my children’s lives and their presence has gifted me me with a multitude of lessons and experiences. The Restorative Life Blog posts are inspired by those lessons and things that I have learned along the way that I often wished I had known sooner. But that’s the point, we all have our lessons to learn and we can share them with the hope to ease someone else’s journey and fill their pockets with that nugget of hope.
Of course, that nugget of hope grew into a toolbox of resources fortified by words of encouragement. One of the saying that got me through time and time again was:
“It’s going to be ok in the end, if it’s not ok, it’s not the end.”
It’s all ok now and incredibly, miraculously, we have reached “the other side”. Without getting into unnecessary detail and with respect for his privacy, my son is now 17 years old. He’s been completely off medication since 2019 and he’s thriving at a local school in North London with a bright future ahead of him. This could not have happened without changing his diet to reduce inflammation and allow the body to perform its extraordinary adaptations. Now that he is completely healed, he no longer needs to follow a special diet, but he does understand the relationship between sugar and the brain and how what he eats directly relates to how he feels.
It’s interesting to be on the other side. Our life was intimately tethered to some very difficult struggles for a long time. During some periods, those struggles attached to our identity in uncomfortable ways, and as we moved through and reached new milestones, we had to take some time to get steady and grounded in the new territory each step of the way. Even the best laid plans did not prevent obstacles from appearing along the way. We had to regroup often and acquire new tools to continue moving forward. And here we stand on the other side liberated from the heaviness and burden of struggles with a nugget of hope and lessons ready to move on to the next journey ahead.